The Gift that Keeps on Giving

How appropriate to talk about gifts during the holiday season. Unfortunately, I'm not talking about charitable donations, and I'm not talking about babies. I'm not talking about venereal diseases, nor am I talking about natural male enhancement. I'm talking about a "gift" that I got this week that was not expected at all and that hurt - a breakup.

I am in a very happy and loving marriage, and I haven't been broken up with in a long time, so I wasn't prepared for the hurt that followed this message I received on Saturday via Facebook:

sorry to defriend you kandice....but its time to move on now cus clearly *** and i arent getting back together. I just need total space from it. I definitely love and miss both you and sean. hope all is well down there!

Ouch! This wasn't even my relationship and I got dumped from it. And this wasn't a recent breakup either - it happened months ago. I care about this person so much, even if he is the ex of my friend. To be honest, I cried. I cried when I got the message on my phone. I cried when I re-read the message on my computer. I cried when I had a dream that night about it. I cried the next day off and on.

I guess that's where the whole idea of a breakup being "the gift that keeps on giving" came from. A breakup can be a good or bad gift, and it affects more people than just those two involved in the relationship. The effects can last a long time, and the pain can hurt different people at different times.

I suppose I'm the lucky one in this situation though - I had my wonderful husband to lessen the blow of being dumped. And I'm happy that the gift I received was not a baby, a STD, or natural male enhancement. Charitable donations are always welcome though.